


This is my friend J’s “Peacock Tapestry” cross-stitch that was her half of our “finish-along” in the summer of 2022. It has been six months now since she died, and although I am slowly getting used to that — it can be surprisingly easy, when one is hundreds of miles away, to forget that someone is gone, to find yourself picking up the phone to text her then thinking, “oh wait, no” — just seeing this is still hard.
I had to laugh when her sister-in-law and best friend brought me the frame and supplies a few weeks ago — of course, I had told J that I didn’t think I should finish it for her when she asked me in 2020, because of the “left-handed, right-handed crosses” issue, and then two years later, when I had pulled out my equally long-unfinished “English Cottage” (also by Teresa Wentzler), we had a memorable summer exchanging photos and encouraging messages by text, as we worked on our respective projects.
But Laura and I had a chat about it yesterday, and I have decided to finish it. I admit that I have been reluctant, since it isn’t really my style — definitely J’s though, she liked rich colors and textures and, it must be said, a bit of drama! not in her personal life, mind, just in her decorative sense! — but it will be my memorial to her and to our friendship, since, unless I can wrap my brain around making my crosses the “other” way, hers will be this way / then \, and mine will be \ then /, so that it will be clear, to me and to the eagle-eyed at least, which are hers and which are mine. She had worked, really, comparatively few of the leaves in the tree, and I am hoping that, if it really does matter about mixing the two kinds of crosses, the scattering of her leaves here and there will not be too distracting. Luckily for me, she had finished pretty much all of the border except for the Algerian eyelets in the lines of diamonds, and a few other spots, so that at least will be relatively cohesive!
She was sometimes even more librarian-y than me, even though she was never actually a librarian — yes, there is a dot-matrix printed inventory of threads! She bought the chart in 1994! —













































